How To Build Self-Confidence
Last updated June 9, 2021
Self-confidence is a process of learning to trust and love yourself, and know that when you set out to accomplish something, you can do it. But it doesn’t happen overnight - and you shouldn’t expect it to. Like our emotions and happiness, confidence is a thing that ebbs and flows in accordance with how we cultivate it through our daily actions. Self-care, exercise, socializing, working toward our goals - all of these things contribute to our confidence (or a lack of it).
We put together this quick guide on actions and positive thought processes that can help you nurture your self-confidence and grow into the person you want to be!
Stand up for yourself.
You are your strongest advocate. If someone mistreats you, speaks down to you, or puts you in uncomfortable situations, you have every right to stick up for yourself! This can feel uncomfortable and even a little overwhelming at first, but it’s essential.
It’s important to note that standing up for yourself doesn’t always have to mean defending yourself from mistreatment. It can also mean advocating for your talents, skills, and abilities! The more you advocate for yourself, the more you reiterate to others- and yourself- that you are confident, capable, and belong.
Learn how to say no.
“No” is a complete sentence! While sometimes pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is necessary for growth, you can say no to things that take up valuable time or leave you feeling burnt out. Prioritizing yourself and your goals will not only set you up for success, but will make you more confident with setting necessary boundaries over time.
Combat imposter syndrome.
Imposter syndrome - the experience of doubting our abilities, intelligence, or self-worth - can have a lot of negative impacts on our self-confidence. Everyone experiences imposter syndrome at one point or another, but it’s important to know how to challenge it. When you find yourself experiencing imposter syndrome, take some time to investigate the root of the negative feelings. Did something cause you to feel this way, like getting a bad grade on a test or making a mistake at work? Did nothing particularly bad happen, but you’re still feeling like you don’t belong? Once you take the time to find the root of these feelings, a good practice is to challenge them. Pushing back on your imposter syndrome and reminding yourself that you are worthy of all the good things in your life can burst your bubble of self-doubt and bring you back to reality. If you need extra reassurance, talk to a teacher, co-worker, or loved one!
Put yourself out of your comfort zone.
When was the last time you did something for the very first time? If you’re having a hard time answering that, you might be due for an adventure outside of your comfort zone. Take some time to consider what stepping out of your comfort looks like for you - it might not be the same as anyone else, and that’s okay! For example, if you experience social anxiety, try having small interactions with store clerks or baristas to practice your conversational skills. This is a process, and it’s important to remember to go at your own pace. Over time you’ll build the confidence needed to keep tackling any hurdles.
Surround yourself with people that uplift you.
This one is a no-brainer! If there are people in your life that put you down, make you second-guess yourself, or don’t fill your cup, it may be time to reconsider your relationship with them. Surround yourself with a community that cheers you on when you succeed and supports you when you fail. Knowing you have a supportive network on your side can give you the confidence needed to aim higher!
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